Here are five job search tips for the nervous job seeker:
1. Think about what actually makes you nervous and fix it – have you ever just sat down and thought through what makes you nervous in the first place. I outlined in my profile page I used to be scared to death (literally) about giving a presentation. Then one day I sat down and asked myself: “What was the major reason I was so scared?” The answer to that question made me change my ways.
2. Tell yourself positive things when you start to get nervous - sometimes just telling yourself over and over you are ready for the interview or you are qualified for this job or that job helps your negative-brain catch up with reality. Everyone has strengths. Find yours and remind yourself about them…often.
3. Practice, practice and practice some more - don’t just practice the nervous things you have but practice how you approach people, what you say (or don’t say) and figure out how people perceive you. Finding a friend or family member to help out is important with this one.
4. Be honest with yourself and others - sometimes you just need to let people know you are nervous when you are. It’s not like they can’t tell. Acknowledge a limitation like this and see how many people like the honest approach. It takes a bigger man (or woman) to be honest than those who hide things thinking no one sees them.
5. Yell at yourself in the mirror – this one sounds crazy I know. What yelling at yourself does is it helps you get out what you are scared or mad at about yourself. I suggest you don’t do this when someone else is home unless you warn them. They might think you are nuts. Yelling at yourself brings your fears right out on the table. And that is what you need.
Get over your nerves.
Let’s Get Started!
Jeff